datapath: Add ref counting for flows.

Currently flows are only used within the confines of one
rcu_read_lock()/rcu_read_unlock() session.  However, with the
addition of header caching we will need to hold references to flows
for longer periods of time.  This adds support for that by adding
refcounts to flows.  RCU is still used for normal packet handling
to avoid a performance impact from constantly updating the refcount.
However, instead of directly freeing the flow after a grace period
we simply decrement the refcount.

Signed-off-by: Jesse Gross <jesse@nicira.com>
Reviewed-by: Ben Pfaff <blp@nicira.com>